Couples &c. ?
Yes! It’s more accurate to call this particular offering dyadic therapy, but that sounds like therapy for forest spirits, which was not – unfortunately – covered in my training.
You’re probably more familiar with couple, relationship or marriage therapy, however . . .
Dyadic sessions are for any two people in a significant relationship, not just romantic partners. Friends, chosen family, metamours, scene partners (theatre or otherwise . . .) and other duos are welcome.
Existential therapy for two
What does it mean to share your life with another human being? In my practice, we address this question directly. My foundational orientation is existential-phenomenological, which means I view relationships as profound, creative responses to the isolation and freedom inherent in being alive. For couples and dyads, I channel this philosophy through emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT).
Think of EFCT as the practical map for our existential exploration. When you and your person find yourselves trapped in repetitive, painful arguments, the issue is rarely just about chores or answering text messages. Beneath the cycle of conflict or distancing is a fundamental, dizzying fear of losing security and belonging. By fusing existential depth with the structured, experiential focus of EFCT, we identify the rigid patterns keeping you stuck, look beneath the surface at the raw vulnerability that drives them and reshape how you reach for one another.
Together, we work to cultivate a shared reality where both of you can feel secure, deeply understood and truly free.
The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
—Carl Jung
Fees &c.
Most dyadic sessions are 60 minutes at a rate of $185/hour, which accounts for our time together and the behind-the-scenes research, analysis, education and consulting that supports our work. Our first session will be longer (90 minutes) to give us enough time to go through the history of your relationship, the predicament that brings you to therapy, your hopes and your concerns. After that, I'll meet with each of you separately for 45–60 minutes, so we can discuss your personal histories and perspectives. These sessions are prorated. See my online booking page for more details.
Sessions take place online via Jane (secure video conferencing) and are currently available Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. *There is a waitlist for new clients, and dyadic availability is limited.
Numerous studies have shown that psychotherapy is most effective when sessions occur weekly or biweekly in the early stages. Together, we’ll find a regular day and time that work for everyone, so you (and your nervous system) can enjoy predictability and consistency.
You can make changes to or cancel a scheduled appointment up to 24 hours before your session. Late cancellations and missed sessions will result in a full charge.